It wasn’t until recently that I realised the above no longer had a hold on me, and that it hadn’t for nearly 4 years.
It became really clear to me as I observed postings on Facebook from friends and colleagues with the above messages and funny images to boot. That this was an experience I used to have. Sunday afternoons were wasted obsessing about the fact that the weekend was over and I HAD to go to work the next day, sleep Sunday night was always restless and disturbed. Wednesday’s we would celebrate being over the half way mark, over the hump. And then we would wish and will Friday to arrive, more specifically Friday afternoon as that meant the beginning of the weekend. Nothing like wishing one’s life away!
It was an amazing realisation that these things did not concern or bother me anymore, in fact NIL impact. So what changed in my life? For starters I did, and just as importantly (for me) what I did for a living changed – dramatically.
I left my well paid management role in the corporate sphere to find myself, and a new career. At the time I left my job, I had no idea what I would be doing, that was scary in itself, however things evolved naturally.
So the difference for me is that I now love what I do, anytime I am working with a client I am literally in happy camp. And I don’t care if that is a weekday, weeknight or weekend. This isn’t to say that I did not enjoy my previous career, I did for the most part and had some fantastic very happy and rewarding moments. However, these bursts of happiness were becoming less frequent. So the statement is true, “find what you love doing and you will never work another day in your life”. In fact the opposite for me is true, if I don’t have a client I am hanging out for the next day so I can be doing what I love.
One other discovery that I have made in the last 3-4 years from working with 100’s of clients, is that often people who have the TGIF, yeah hump day and Sunday blues, love what they do, there is something else going on for them. A conflict at work, some tension or misunderstanding, and 9 out of 10 times these things can be resolved fairly easily.
I hate to say but this change needs to start with you, the individual, your expectations, maybe your attempts to control things, like the other people we work with – we all know this is not possible and an exercise in futility. Maybe it’s the perfect job, but the wrong environment. So why not learn some techniques to be the best you that you can be, take the focus of others and put it squarely with yourself. After all you are the only thing with certainty that you have control over, if you chose. You may be surprised at what a change in mindset can do for you.
Until next time.
Deb
