You often read articles talking about how a strong woman is often perceived as aggressive a bit of a bitch – don’t worry ladies I will touch on this next week. But I thought it about time that we had a chat about the modern man.
Is the modern man really different at his core than his predecessor? A modern man is generally perceived as more: sensitive, empathetic, caring, conscious of their appearance etc, and yes they do cry and eat quiche. Is this new or have they always been this way, but with a façade to ensure that they live up to the labels and expectations put on them by society, at any given time?
I would hazard a guess that men have always been: sensitive, caring, empathetic and concerned about their appearance etc. (let’s face it the male in most other species is generally more colourful and pretty) but that it was not socially acceptable for them to be authentic. It was not considered manly. So I believe real men hid their true selves, and lived behind a mask so that they could live up to society’s expectations of them, and be accepted into this world in which they were born.
How refreshing it must be for the modern man to be true to oneself and cry if there is a need or it feels right, eat quiche out at a café without being judged, be sensitive and caring, particularly to another man. And I applaud those men who are true to how they feel and do not pretend to be something that they are not. I much prefer people to be honest with who they are, at least that way there are no surprises – what you see is what you get, not to mention I also make a pretty good quiche. I also believe it takes real courage and strength to step outside those societal labels.
Why is it that we cling to these old stereotypes, does it make us comfortable or allow us to explain away behaviour? But truly who are we to judge what is right or normal for another person? Isn’t it time that we allowed people to show us their true self and be grateful for this? I say yes.
So bring on the modern man, the man who has always been the same but has removed the pretence. Truth be told we women like it, we love seeing the real authentic you, whether a friend, colleague or lover. It gives us the same freedom to drop our labels and be our true authentic selves. Thank you.