I often hear people say things like, oh you have not experienced love until you have become a mother, until you have given birth. So my question to those who believe this, what about the father? Does he not love his children just as much as the mother? After all he did not give birth, he did not carry the child for nine months…so are you saying his love is less? What about the couple who is desperate to have a child but cannot for whatever reason, and may adopt? Does that mean they are destined to spend their life not experiencing what some call the ‘only’ love, do they not love their adopted child as much?
The other common phrase, unless you have married you do not know true love. Really?
My understanding of love is different. Love is love, pure and unconditional – there are no shades, degrees or variances. What distinguishes what we perceive as love are the human emotions and feelings that come with it. For example your love for your friends is different to that of your lover. But the love is the same – pure and unconditional. You may have protection, or a sense of security, and for your lover passion and the ability to totally surrender. But love is love.
So I ask that before you tell someone that they do not know what love is, that you stop and consider if this is true. For if you are coming from a place of pure unconditional love there are no degrees, no distinctions. Go within and see what other feelings and emotions are connected to that relationship.
So when I tell you that I love you, I mean it. If I tell a friend that I love them, I am not saying that the love also has passion attached, a desire to be romantic with you. Trust me you will know. It is pure unconditional love for my friend, for humanity, for a member of my tribe. Accept it for what it is – LOVE!