All too often I hear people say that it is about embracing your shadow, looking within and loving the darkness. The truth is, this is not always the case. Sometimes, particularly when people have experienced trauma, whether it be abandonment, assault, sexual assault, domestic violence, stalking, a suicide attempt, abuse of drugs, alcohol or sex, or anything else that brings darkness into our lives. Embracing the light can be the challenge.
And if you are lucky like me, and yes I say lucky, you may have experienced all of the above. Why is that lucky? Embracing the dark is often so much easier than embracing the light, you have got the darkness down pat. It also means that you have many lessons to learn, that you are being given an opportunity to develop love and compassion, grow, and be able to transcend the darkness and learn what the light is about. Pure unconditional love.
Why can the light be a challenge? When your default is the darkness, you know and understand how it works. You have lived and breathed it. You understand how it operates. The darkness can become comfortable.
What distinguishes us is our ability to recognise when the darkness is resurfacing. When we start to lose touch with our light. It is our ability to once again embrace the light and come back to a place of unconditional love and trust in ourselves and the divine universe.
Regardless of how much work you have done, or continue to do. For those that have lived in the dark it can show itself at any time, and in many ways. Maybe it is someone who says they will call and they don’t. This can trigger your sense of abandonment. Which can then bring about thoughts of being unworthy and therefore a desire of going back to your old ways. The sign of growth is your ability to catch yourself, to look into any given situation and be able to appreciate the experience for what it is. An opportunity to know and understand your triggers; and to appreciate your light and unconditional love.
So if you have a friend that has lived in the darkness, be aware that seemingly small oversights, can trigger an avalanche of emotion and a return, even if momentarily to the darkness. Does this make the person extending the oversight wrong, careless or cruel? No! That is of course unless that was their intention, or they knew that their actions would cause some angst.
So what I am saying, it is not always clear cut, it is not always about embracing your darkness. There is polarity in the Universe so it can equally be about embracing and trusting your light.
One of our true gifts can be understanding that this is the case and being aware of where people have come from. It is about being able to support friends, family, and our human family regardless of whether it is the darkness or the light that has helped make them who they are today.
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