Valentine’s Day was based on an ancient Roman festival called Lupercalia. Lupercalia was a celebration of fertility held on 15 February. Circa 496 Pope Gelasius I, changed this festival to a Christian feast moving the day of celebration to 14 February and labelling the day Valentine’s Day.
There are many myths and legends around Valentine’s Day. At some time in our recent past the US adopted (circa 1946) Valentine’s Day to celebrate love and friendship. Some now question do we need a day to celebrate love? Or, is the day a massive plug for spending money, and for those not in a loving committed relationship to feel like somehow they are missing out?
Valentine’s Day was always about love
Up until the age of 24/24 it was also about being romanced, cards, flowers and chocolates. At this time something flipped in me and I formed an opinion that we did not need a specific day to celebrate love; that this should be done daily not once a year. Flowers, romance and chocolates should be given as a gesture and to surprise and delight rather than being mandated through the media.
In relationships from this time, yes there were some gift giving, but all very tongue in cheek. I recall getting an IOU for a singing lesson (never claimed) and another year a sport’s bra. Ok so not very romantic, but for me it wasn’t necessary. I wanted to feel loved, supported and cherished all year.
Now I know that my beliefs are not everyone’s and that is ok. What I wish is that for this Valentine’s Day, regardless of your beliefs that you take time for you. That you take time to celebrate how special you are, regardless of whether you are in a good or bad relationship, single or not.
If we are to make this a day of love, then let us start with self-love. I want you to stand in front of a mirror and say something positive, self-affirming that makes you want to smile. Because you are special.
Enjoy your day.